Pandemic Tug Experiment

What? No hugs? For months on end that has been a caution and a challenge for me and many others. I have devised a solution. Pandemic tugs.

It is recommended that we do not hug friends and family at this time. Nor strangers for that matter, but who wants to hug a stranger? That’s creepy. In the combat of the subversive spreading strategy of the current coronavirus, we stay distant. I pondered the fact that many remain without hugs and the deficit in our sense of connection that can create. There must be a short term better way.

There is beauty and purpose in a sweet, safe hug with a loved one or someone you simply want to encourage. I miss that. Maybe you do, too. What can we do instead to stay safe, respect others, and still sense a physical connection? This sent me on a quest. I came up with this idea.

Tugs! Isn’t that what you were thinking, too? No? Well, then, let me explain.

As I thought further, the idea came to me that maybe tugging on a rope would help. Crazy, right? Think about it. In a hug, you touch another person tenderly. You sense they are really out there and you are connected. The second best idea could be a tug when you cannot hug.

Tugs and hugs do have some similarities:

  • Two or more people are usually needed.
  • Some resistance is applied, so physically you know someone is out there for you.
  • There is a sense of connection.
  • Often people feel better afterwards.

So I began to explore with my theory and then found a few friends to experiment, I mean play, with the theory. Let’s see what happened. Here were my next steps.

  1. Find something to tug. A rope came to mind. Knots would be helpful.
  2. Get a rope with knots, or add your own to a plain rope.
  3. Make sure the rope is long enough for social distancing.
  4. Make sure the rope is washable for germ precautions. That, and dirt precautions.

Amazon, naturally, had a dog toy rope long enough for my purposes, and it was also washable. It is knotted and has a tassel, which adds a sense of play and silly. Now, we’re talking!

I ordered two for tugging with friends without passing them around. I don’t feel that is a high risk, but it is courteous.

The ropes arrived. I was very pleased. The experiment was underway, supplies in hand.
Each rope was long enough to provide a measured physical distance. Perfect!
I was prepared and ready to try my fresh idea.

Two friends came over for a physically distant outdoor visit. They were game to test my tug hypothesis which was: Tugging on a rope with a loved one would be fun and provide a sweet physical sense of connection.

Here goes! We all tried it and tugged together. My hypothesis proved true.

The resistance needed to tug on a rope provides a fun sense that someone is out there engaged with you. It worked!
We couldn’t help but smile, but you cannot tell because, well, masks.
This did not feel like a hug, obviously. Yet it did create a sense of connection and play, and that lightened our hearts.

The experiment was a success! The tugs are a cute replacement for hugs while we are in this pandemic. I was so happy we each felt the physical presence of friends in this off-beat way, and that brought joy.

And then we tugged good-bye, with smiles on all faces.

Some of you will find this awesome, too, and may even need to invest in your tug of love rope. Or get a four way tug of love rope to extend to a group tug.

4-Way Tug Tool

Desperate times call for creative solutions! Tug someone soon!

Stay connected, my friends, and may tugs of joy be yours this holiday season.

Seasons & Sisterhood

Seasons. They come and go on the calendar and in stages of our lives. Friday, September 22, 2017, was the first day of the season of fall for this year. Here in the Los Angeles area, we had cooler weather and a day filled with big, puffy, white clouds, not typically our sky. The weather made for a delightful first day of fall, even though the palm trees are misleading.

1st Day of Fall Clouds

Puffy clouds like this are rare in the Southern California sky.

1st Day of Fall Palms

First day of fall in Southern California 2017

Many of us love fall. I know I do. Perhaps you do as well. There is so much to love about fall. What are you favorite parts of the season?

  • Shorter days
  • Cooler weather
  • Cozy evenings at home
  • Spectacular sunsets
  • Pumpkin everything
  • The outdoor smell of fireplaces in use
  • Changing color of leaves, depending where you live
  • A cup of steamy, hot tea in your favorite flavor
  • Baking with apples and cinnamon
  • Favorite TV shows starting a new season
  • The burst of bright mums in gardens
  • Soups on the stove
  • Football season
  • Frosty mornings
  • Oktoberfests
  • Homecomings
  • Trick-or-treating and jack-o-lanterns
  • Drinking cider, hot, cold, spiced, or spiked
  • Kids coming home from college
  • Thanksgiving
  • Curling up with a comfy blanket or quilt
  • Getting out your sweaters, jackets, and scarves
  • Elections (Ha! Does anyone really look forward to this part of fall?)
  • Decorating for fall
  • Walking in crunchy leaves
  • And maybe even Hallmark movies

What did I forget? Are your favorite things on the list?

I went to my local Michael’s craft store to check out the fall displays. I wandered around and took a few photos of fall decorations to contribute to my first day of fall good mood. I didn’t buy anything. I’ve actually grown weary of owning and storing more stuff. Yet, it was still fun to see it all.

Pumpkin Pile - Michael's

Pumpkins

Mums - Michael's

Mums

Fall Flowers Michael's

Flowers

Fall Garland at Michael's

Garlands

Some seasons in life are so beautiful. Some seasons are difficult and challenging. And that’s where seasons demand sisterhood.

Here is the definition of sisterhood, according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary.

“the solidarity of women based on shared conditions, experiences, or concerns.”

When we go through a tough season of life, it is wonderful to have sisters, our friends in the frenzy, who are there to sort through reality, share a cup of coffee, and talk about life together with us. My husband is a great partner in life, and a good listener and confident. Yet I also need trusted friends for support and understanding. I could not get through some situations without my good friends, sisters in experiences and concerns. I don’t have any sisters here on earth, so I really appreciate good friends.

This year, on the first day of fall, a wise friend joined me for mid-morning coffee.

Heart Latte at Auntie's

We talked and laughed and solved problems. These times with friends are important and highly valued. The sweet conversation lasted until the demands of the day called us elsewhere, just as my latte emptied to the bottom of the mug.

Heart Foam & End of a Latte - Auntie's

The conversations like this with good friends keep the heart centered and that feeling of connection strong. I am so thankful for sisters in the seasons of life.

Happy fall, friends! And stay charming!