What? No hugs? For months on end that has been a caution and a challenge for me and many others. I have devised a solution. Pandemic tugs.
It is recommended that we do not hug friends and family at this time. Nor strangers for that matter, but who wants to hug a stranger? That’s creepy. In the combat of the subversive spreading strategy of the current coronavirus, we stay distant. I pondered the fact that many remain without hugs and the deficit in our sense of connection that can create. There must be a short term better way.
There is beauty and purpose in a sweet, safe hug with a loved one or someone you simply want to encourage. I miss that. Maybe you do, too. What can we do instead to stay safe, respect others, and still sense a physical connection? This sent me on a quest. I came up with this idea.
Tugs! Isn’t that what you were thinking, too? No? Well, then, let me explain.
As I thought further, the idea came to me that maybe tugging on a rope would help. Crazy, right? Think about it. In a hug, you touch another person tenderly. You sense they are really out there and you are connected. The second best idea could be a tug when you cannot hug.
Tugs and hugs do have some similarities:
- Two or more people are usually needed.
- Some resistance is applied, so physically you know someone is out there for you.
- There is a sense of connection.
- Often people feel better afterwards.
So I began to explore with my theory and then found a few friends to experiment, I mean play, with the theory. Let’s see what happened. Here were my next steps.
- Find something to tug. A rope came to mind. Knots would be helpful.
- Get a rope with knots, or add your own to a plain rope.
- Make sure the rope is long enough for social distancing.
- Make sure the rope is washable for germ precautions. That, and dirt precautions.
Amazon, naturally, had a dog toy rope long enough for my purposes, and it was also washable. It is knotted and has a tassel, which adds a sense of play and silly. Now, we’re talking!
I ordered two for tugging with friends without passing them around. I don’t feel that is a high risk, but it is courteous.



Two friends came over for a physically distant outdoor visit. They were game to test my tug hypothesis which was: Tugging on a rope with a loved one would be fun and provide a sweet physical sense of connection.
Here goes! We all tried it and tugged together. My hypothesis proved true.



The experiment was a success! The tugs are a cute replacement for hugs while we are in this pandemic. I was so happy we each felt the physical presence of friends in this off-beat way, and that brought joy.
And then we tugged good-bye, with smiles on all faces.
Some of you will find this awesome, too, and may even need to invest in your tug of love rope. Or get a four way tug of love rope to extend to a group tug.

Desperate times call for creative solutions! Tug someone soon!
Stay connected, my friends, and may tugs of joy be yours this holiday season.